Saturday February 22nd at St Nicholas Church at 6.30pm
There will be a rainbow Eucharist. All are welcome.
Saturday February 29that Sacred Heart Church at 12.00
Official Roman Catholic mass, all are welcome.
There will be a rainbow Eucharist. All are welcome.
Official Roman Catholic mass, all are welcome.
I have been writing to the diocesan bishops in the House of Bishops about their ‘pastoral statement’ on mixed sex civil partnerships.
If anyone else wishes to do so, the list of contact details is House of Bishops contact addresses #2 All these addresses and emails are in the public domain.
A generic copy of the letter can be seen by clicking the link dear diocesan bishop
On January 22nd 2020 the house of Bishops (HOB) published their pastoral statement Civil Partnerships – for same sex and opposite sex and opposite sex couples. A pastoral statement from the House of Bishops of the Church of England. This is available to download here.
In this document the HOB gave their decisions that opposite sex civil partnerships cannot be blessed in church and that anyone who applies for ordination in a civil partnership must be asked to explain why they have rejected the church’s doctrine of marriage. While I acknowledge the right of the HOB to make these decisions, the quality of the document setting out their reasoning is deeply flawed. It has factual errors, erroneous assumptions and significant omissions. It also produces a new definition of marriage!
In 2005 the House of Bishops issued a previous pastoral statement about civil partnerships. Available to download here.
It is interesting to compare the two documents because some sections of the two statements are copy and paste. I will discuss some of the content of this new statement.
Paragraph 3 incorrectly states that ‘…for the first time, [there is] a substantive gap emerged between the Church’s understanding of marriage and that of the State.’ In fact it is merely the latest in a list of differences in understanding. It has to be said that this difference in understanding incudes a difference in opinion about who controls marriage.
The church’s Canon B30 says: ‘The Church of England affirms, according to our Lord’s teaching, that marriage is in its nature a union permanent and lifelong, for better for worse, till death them do part, of one man with one woman, to the exclusion of all others on either side, for the procreation and nurture of children, for the hallowing and right direction of the natural instincts and affections, and for the mutual society, help and comfort which the one ought to have of the other, both in prosperity and adversity.”
Yet the state has allowed and regulated divorce since the 1857 Matrimonial Causes Act. The church of England stopped opposing this in 2002. It seems to me that a disagreement lasting 145 years and abandoning a key element of canon B30 would count as a substantive gap between church and state. And let’s not forget the 1836 Civil Marriage Act which allowed Catholics and non-conformists to marry in their own churches. Marriage could also take place in a civil registry office. This separated marriage from the exclusive remit of the churches.
In paragraph 7 the HOB redefines marriage, contrary to the official church Canons. The new HOB definition is
‘Marriage, defined as a faithful, committed, permanent and legally sanctioned relationship between a man and a woman making a public commitment to each other, is central to the stability and health of human society.’
The words making a public commitment to each other, have been added into the statement from paragraph 2 in the 2005 statement. This additional words are not found in any of the authoritative texts about marriage. These texts are usefully summarised here. Why does the HOB feel that they need to introduce a new element to their definition of marriage?
All definitions of marriage contain an explicit statement that marriage is permanent – no divorce is possible and remarriage after divorce has to be contrary to the requirement that it is lifelong. Yet the church routinely allows this in church.
Paragraphs 8 and 9 are copied, but in the intervening 15 years the church has made no attempt to define ‘sexual intercourse’ nor the sexual relationships that we should not be having neither has it addressed the vastly greater number of heterosexuals who are having sexual relationships outside marriage. If the church truly believed in this teaching then it would not ignore the significant number of couples who come to the church to get married and already have children together. How many of those couples get told that their relationship falls short of God’s purposes for human beings?
Paragraph 10 contains ‘In the context, however, of the introduction of opposite sex as well as same sex civil partnerships, the teaching of the church on marriage remains unchanged.’ This is almost an oxymoron, because the HOB both argues that marriage and civil partnerships are different things and argues that the theology of marriage applies to civil partnerships too. If Civil partnerships are different, then they should do the theology for them and do not just import ideas about marriage.
Why does the copied paragraph 14 (2005 para 11) have ‘nature’ underlined? It was not underlined in 2005. I also note the repeated use of the word legislation, it reads like something written by lawyers rather than theologians.
Then paragraph 16 has ‘The principles … therefore apply also to opposite sex civil partnerships.’ The wording implies that this is a conclusion drawn from an argument. However the preceding paragraphs have just basically said that people enter into civil partnerships for a variety of reasons and some of them may intend for the relationship to be sexually active. Everything in the preceding four paragraphs could apply equally well to opposite sex marriages, but nobody is suggesting that the principles for civil partnership should apply to them. As the reasoning applies to all, the principles from those should apply to all.
So we move to the heart of the matter in paragraphs 19 – 21, which basically say that because some people entering a civil partnership might not abide by the church’s teaching ‘that marriage between a man and a woman is the proper context for sexual intercourse’, then everyone entering a civil partnership is to be denied the opportunity for a blessing service. No attempt is made to allow for individual circumstances, some might agree with that teaching, so why should they be denied blessing?
In light of recent safeguarding events, such as the recent BBC2 documentary on the abuse by Bishop Peter Ball and the episcopal cover up, how can the HOB really say to couples entering a civil partnership that the clergy should talk to them about ‘sexual morality, celibacy, and the positive value of committed friendships in the Christian tradition?’ I’m afraid that the HOB has lost a lot of credibility recently and this unpastoral statement will just have accelerated that loss of credibility. Statements like this, from people in opposite sex marriages who deny to others the blessings that they enjoy, do not have the right to take the moral high ground until they deal with their own moral failings.
More copy and paste, then we get to new material in paragraph 26. It says ‘the arguments advanced in the Supreme Court included the desire for a publicly authorised institution which explicitly rejected the perceived religious connotations of marriage.’ Yet the HOB makes no attempt to understand the meaning of ‘religious connotations’ and miss the explicitly stated objections to patriarchy, privilege and power. When the successful campaigners Rebecca Steinfeld and Charles Keidan had their civil partnership on the first day, Tuesday December 31st 2019, the media reported that they had vows (The Times Wednesday January 1 2020 page 11). It also reported their reasons for choosing civil partnerships rather than marriage, which were based on equality and mutual respect as well as loving each other.
Therefore it is ironic that the HOB are wanting ‘candidates for ordination wishing to enter an Opposite Sex Civil Partnership should expect to be asked to explain their understanding of the theological and social meanings of their decision.’ Perhaps the candidate for ordination should enquire about the theological and social understanding of the person doing the enquiring. Or just explain it to the bishops anyway.
Comparing paragraph 29 with paragraph 23 in the 2005 statement, there is material that has been removed. The removed material states Issues in Human Sexuality made it clear that, while the same standards apply to all, the Church did not want to exclude from its fellowship those lay people of gay or lesbian orientation who, in conscience, were unable to accept that a life of sexual abstinence was required of them and instead chose to enter into a faithful, committed relationship. I would like to see this material reinserted into the document. This is an important point and needs to be explicitly stated.
Paragraph 32 states that ‘A key difference between a marriage and a civil partnership is that marriages are solemnised with vows and civil partnerships are not. Converting a marriage into a civil partnership thus implies the repudiation of a couple’s marriage vows.’ Speaking for myself, every civil partnership ceremony that I have been to has included vows. Everyone I know in a civil partnership had vows. Vows may not be mandatory and may not have legal weight, but couples want to make them. This is an argument that has no basis in pastoral practice. It can hardly count as a key difference. It sounds like someone is reading legislation and making assumptions, without checking the facts.
The idea that converting marriage into a civil partnership would imply repudiating the couple’s marriage vows is just contrary to the evidence. It might repudiate outdated patriarchy and male headship theology but it can be a way to affirm the marriage vows in equality and a loving relationship. The next paragraph compounds the pastoral insensitivity by requiring that if anyone wants to convert their marriage to a civil partnership ‘the implication that they are repudiating their marriage vows should be carefully pointed out to them.’ It would be interesting to know if the bishops ever considered that someone might disagree with them and feel that they were not repudiating their marriage vows.
However the real discrimination waits for the penultimate paragraph, 34. ‘In the case of clergy or ordinands who seek to convert a marriage into a civil partnership, it should be made clear to them that their decision involves the repudiation of their marriage vows and that the same discipline will apply to them as to those who have broken their marriage vows in other circumstances.’ Essentially because the HOB has got this unfounded idea that converting a marriage to a civil partnership is repudiating the marriage vows, they feel they can discipline those who do it. This shows a complete lack of understanding that there may be any point of view other than theirs. How can they speak to the motivation of everyone who might do this in the future? The truth is that they can’t. They are threatening to use their power against anyone who does not agree with their interpretations.
I would like to suggest an alternative scenario – where the HOB actually have a conversation (no more passive listening) and actually find out for themselves why some people prefer civil partnership over marriage. Some people want to make and keep vows, but do not want to be weighed down with centuries of outdated patriarchal headship theology.
And so this train wreck of a document ends with the new definition of marriage. ‘For Christians, marriage – that is the lifelong union between a man and a woman, contracted with the making of vows – remains the proper context for sexual activity.’ Somehow lifelong union seems to be restated and ignored and the idea that contracting with the making of vows makes the union a marriage.
‘In its approach to civil partnerships the Church seeks to uphold that standard, to affirm the value of committed, sexually abstinent friendships and to minister sensitively and pastorally to those Christians who conscientiously decide to order their lives differently.’
There is no sensitivity here, no quality pastoral care, just a restatement of privilege and power. Sorry Bishops, you have embarrassed yourselves here. If you want to decide that opposite sex civil partnerships cannot be blessed and that potential ordinands should explain their reasons for choosing civil partnerships, then you have the right to make that decision. Just make it a very short announcement, 2 sentences should do, and don’t try to redefine marriage while you are at it.
Sadly this is another church document that does not mention Jesus at all. It does mention the creation and that seems to be more important to HOB than Jesus.
In September 2016 The Guardian newspaper carried an article about the bishop of Grantham, Nicholas Chamberlain, in which he came out as a partnered gay man. This made bishop Nicholas the only openly gay bishop in the Church of England.
The original article can be read here
Following that coming out, bishop Nicholas received hundreds of letters. Two academics were asked to study these unique letters from a sociological perspective.
As a way of reporting these letters, a blog post was created in December 2019. This can be read here. The full academic article is available for download here.
As part of the academic reporting of their work the authors announced a seminar to talk about their findings. All the tickets were quickly booked over the first weekend. Demand was so great that the seminar had to be moved to a larger venue and more tickets made available. That seminar took place on Thursday January 2020 at Goldsmith’s college.
As several of the academic findings are available in the links above, I will focus on the other things that came out of this seminar. One idea that I had not come across before was the idea of ‘vicarious religion’. This is the idea that there are people who do not ‘do religion’ themselves, but feel it is important that religion is being done by others. Vicarious religion happens when the religion is practised by an active minority on behalf of a larger part of society. This idea showed up significantly in the letters, there were many who expressed the idea that ‘although I don’t go to church myself…’ or ‘I’m not a Christian but…’ and yet they felt strongly enough about this matter to write to a bishop that they had never met. As these writers were out of the usual church circles, even finding an address or an email to send a letter would have taken some effort. Clearly this was something that mattered far beyond the confines of church.
The researchers noted that there were some absent voices from the correspondence. There were no letters from bible believing / evangelical churches stating how they see their position. Nor were there voices from people who were still developing their ideas on this matter.
The overwhelming number of letters were supportive, with only 4% being negative. The negative letters were ones that the researchers found difficult to deal with emotionally because of the tone and nature of the content. These letters expressed a limited number of theological citations, such as Leviticus, Ezekiel or Romans as well as a theology that the bible was the highest authority. The majority of the non-supportive letters were not civil.
The relationship between church and society is complex. Societies evolve (they always have and always will) and churches variously resist that evolution, so there is a tension and ‘solutions’ to that tension emerge slowly. The church is both in the world and not of it, which can make those in the church feel that they have to be ‘guardians of the sacred’ in a changing society. Yet the church is also called to live it’s ministry in society. This tension will always be there and there will always be presenting problems where the sacred and the social meet. At the moment the presenting problem in the UK church is the inclusion of LGBT+ Christians.
The Church of England is pre-occupied with its own decline. There are well established and well organised groups within the Church of England advocating different positions and this leads to polarisation of the debate.
The role of bishops was discussed and the idea that bishops are a ‘focus for unity’ was seen as a problem for those who do not hold a privileged position. Those who are white, heterosexual and male are often seem to be in a privileged and neutral position who can ‘hold it all together’. Those who are women or LGBT clergy are less likely to be seen as being able to hold it together in the same way. This kind of contested status has always been there, for example in the Elizabethan period the contested status was married clergy. The larger question is ‘what is the essence of episcopacy’ and then we can ask if we can see this in LGBT people.
The Q and A at the end provided some interesting points. One of these was about secrecy. Someone from the Lincoln diocese stated that bishop Nicholas’ sexuality was an open secret in the diocese and everybody knew already. So when it went public, it didn’t change anything. Nobody was surprised, his ministry wasn’t affected, relationships didn’t change, but this might not have been the case if it had not been an open secret. Secrecy is a problem.
The presenting issues change, but the underlying problems do not because it always comes down to the question of what it means to be human. Whether it is a question of left handedness or whether women can vote or the full humanity of different ethnicities. We can never resolve the underlying questions so we will always have sticking points that we have to resolve. At a meeting of representatives of Lincoln diocese with some members of their partner dioceses the presenting issues were different but the underlying questions were the same. Lincoln diocese was debating LGBT matters, the diocese of Bruge was debating whether to allow those who had remarried after divorce to receive communion and the diocese in Sweden was debating about funerals. In a country where churches are funded by a church tax paid by members, should the church still offer funerals to families where few or only one member of the family pays the church tax?
As the tension between accommodation or resistance to societal change by the church is one that can never be resolved, the presenting issues and the factors affecting them may change but there will always be tension between society and the church. These letters provided a unique and fascinating glimpse into this interaction
There will be a podcast of the seminar available.
Several new Roman Catholic events have been added to the upcoming events page. This can be accessed here.
With the start of advent, the church entered a new church year. As the rest of the world catches up it is clear that 2020 is going to be a year with a lot of opportunities and threats. There will be many opportunities, but we must be able to seize those opportunities.
Just to go through some of the ‘highlights’ for 2020:
The Franklin Graham tour starts at the end of May. Tour dates and venues can be accessed here. Sheffield has already been protesting about the planned event in their city. You can read more about this here.
Franklin Graham’s tour is being billed as bringing hope, but he is bringing a very particular brand of Christianity that is not affirming to those of us who are LGBTQ.
In my much younger days I went to see his father Billy Graham on his tours of the UK. I found Billy Graham very impressive in his preaching. He preached a message for everyone, focused on the cross and the Bible and a message that was traditional but not as conservative as I expect the 2020 tour will be.
The Gafcon conference takes place in Kitali Rwanda in early June. More information about this can be found here.
This may not be happening in the UK, but the impact of the conference will be felt here. The organisers of this conference are encouraging bishops worldwide to boycott the Lambeth conference and to attend GAFCON. Those attending the conference have to agree to the Jerusalem Declaration, which can be found here and check out point 8. A key tenet of GAFCON is Lambeth resolution 1.10, which is the only Lambeth resolution given a place on the GAFCON website, where it has a whole page to itself. That page can be accessed here.
Archbishop Justin wants the Lambeth Conference to be a success and early indications are that ‘being a success’ means that a lot of people attend it. Putting bishops in a position where they are encouraged to attend GAFCON and boycott Lambeth is a growing threat to the authority of the archbishop of Canterbury. As GAFCON grows, the possibility of a split in the Anglican communion grows.
The Methodist Conference, where they will be debating (and likely to pass) the resolution to allow Methodist churches to register for same-sex marriages. This takes place at the end of June. The report they are debating can be found here.
There are a number of ancillary documents supporting the report, these can be accessed here. There is a frequently asked questions section that can be accessed here. Other relevant Methodist resources can be accessed from the Marriage and Relationships 2019 page here.
The Methodist work is really impressive and I would encourage everyone to visit their pages and to use the resources there. Not only is their theological approach something that other denominations could benefit from following, but the way that they have thought through how to resource the debate shows a clarity of planning that is often lacking in other church groups.
The Methodists have not started with ‘what does the Bible say about homosexuality?’, but have started with the question of ‘what do good relationships look like?’ As they explore that idea, it leads to a broader view of relationships, families, love, intimacy etc and then they explore what the Bibles says about these broader areas. This gives a quite different emphasis to the Biblical material.
There is also the expectation that Methodists will discuss this locally at all levels before the conference in June. This will not be easy and the Church of England would learn a lot from the Methodists in how to conduct these broad conversations.
I know some local Methodist churches that have already had the discussions and had the votes in their church leadership and if the vote goes through, they are ready and keen to sign up to conduct same-sex marriages as soon as it is available to them.
The Church of England’s Living in Love and Faith project will produce its materials this year. Information about LLF can be found here.
This is the wildcard of 2020. Word on the street is that LLF will produce resources but not make recommendations. That may well annoy both sides and it may well get a negative reception. That will be unfortunate, there is likely to be some progress one way or another. It is likely to give us some of what we want, but it won’t give us everything.
The biggest question will be what happens with those resources? It has been a strategic error on the part of the Church of England hierarchy that they have used the LLF process to shut down any debate on almost anything to do with gender and sexuality. That has led to a lot of frustration and that frustration could come out in a way that the leadership will not like.
The resources are due to be discussed at the General Synod in York on July 10th to 14th (a week after the Methodist conference). I was at the 2017 ‘not taking note’ protest outside Church House at the February 2017 General Synod – will I need to be planning a protest trip to York this summer too?
The 2020 Lambeth Conference takes place in the second half of July. Information about the conference can be found here.
It starts on July 22nd and continues until early August. Many bishops and their spouses will be arriving earlier and be spending time in one or other of the dioceses. There may be an opportunity to meet and engage with the bishops while they are in the dioceses. These bishops are likely to be allies or at least open minded, those who are taking the GAFCON viewpoint will be staying away. The Big Hello is the programme to welcome visiting bishops – accessible here.
At the top of my wish list for Lambeth would be to repeal the 1998 resolution 1.10, but I think there is no chance of that happening. If they did that it would be a signal to GAFCON that a schism is inevitable. It should happen, but it won’t. Whatever happens, it will be a carefully stage-managed affair that will have a slick publicity and comms team giving spin to everything that happens. This is the point where actions will speak louder than words. We have heard all the empty promises and wishes, but it is time to accept our LGBTQ brothers and sisters in Christ as full and equal members of the worldwide church.
Let us see what 2020 brings, but change is coming, just how much and how fast.
I have been reading Charles Foster’s blog Smyth, Fletcher, Iwerne, and the theology of the divided self from Surviving Church.org. The article is available here.
It has set me thinking about the way people can be faithful to wrong theology and how this can be a source of evil in the church. Foster tells of his experiences and indoctrination into a particular theology for young men from elite backgrounds and how this was warped into abuse.
It reminded me of the Biblical story of Jephthah, told in Judges chapter 11. The way this is usually preached is that Jephthah was a great and faithful man of God. He made a promise to God that if God gave him victory in battle then Jephthah would sacrifice ‘whatever comes out of the door of my house to meet me when I return in triumph from the Ammonites will be the Lord’s, and I will sacrifice it as a burnt offering.’ NIV translation. When he returned the first person to greet him was his only child, his daughter. Jephthah was faithful to his promise to the Lord and he eventually sacrificed his daughter to the Lord. Therefore, we are told, we should be faithful, no matter how high the cost, just like Jephthah.
Very rarely have I heard that story preached for what it actually was – the cold-blooded murder of a child. Even though there are clear prohibitions against child sacrifice, for example in Deuteronomy chapter 12 or Leviticus 18.
God did not tell Jephthah to sacrifice his daughter, God did not ask him for any promise in return for victory against the Ammonites. God freely gave victory to his people. Jephthah may have sincerely believed that he was being faithful to God in sacrificing his daughter, but he was doing something that had no mandate from God. This was something that was forbidden in the ten commandments, given in Exodus 20.13.
Yet nobody in his society tried to stop him. Why? Was it because he was a powerful leader and was beyond challenge? Was it because she was a daughter, and after all women were the property of their father until they became the property of their husband?
Many times I have heard this story linked with the story of Abraham sacrificing Isaac, as told in Genesis chapter 22. Jephthah, like Abraham, is portrayed as a man of great faith, willing to sacrifice his only child for the Lord. But there are two very big differences in their stories. First, God told Abraham to do this, so he was being obedient to what God actually said, it was not a promise he had simply made himself. Secondly, the child did not die, God provided a ram to be the sacrifice instead. No child murder here, just faithful obedience and a willingness to give everything for God.
Evil can flourish where it is not challenged. How many powerful people of God are following their own agendas, believing themselves to be faithful? How can the people of God hold up a mirror to their activities and say ‘no, this is not being faithful to God, it is child murder’? Where there is power, there will be abuses of power, even if those are seen to be having a good reason.
This is the heart of the problem, where faithful Christians are trusting their leaders to do what is right but judge the intentions and reasons or even the faithful integrity of the person rather than holding those leaders to account for what they are actually doing.
More events have been added to the Upcoming Events page. There are events for World Aids Day and Carol services. There are also more events for 2020.
The Upcoming Events page can be accessed from the link here.
The Church for Everyone conference took place at St James and Emmanuel Church in Didsbury Manchester, hosted by their vicar Rev Nick Bundock. As part of the day Jayne Ozanne ran a workshop entitled ‘How to recognise and safeguard against spiritual abuse’.
She started with an overview of Church of England policy documents, starting with the 2006 report ‘Promoting a Safe Church’, which was the first official mention of spiritual abuse (on page 39 in appendix 2). In the 2011 ‘Responding well to those who have been sexually abused’, the Church of England used the government’s list of 4 types of abuse – physical, sexual, emotional and neglect.
In 2017, the ‘Responding well to Domestic Abuse’ report recognised additional categories including spiritual abuse. This report was about domestic violence, but appendix 3 was about theology and showed how theology could be misused to cause harm. This appendix is well worth reading and the report can be downloaded from here.
In 2018 there was the first case of a CDM (clergy discipline measure) for spiritual abuse.
The Methodists issued reports in 2010 and 2015 ‘Safeguarding adults’. The Roman Catholics do not appear to have official policies on spiritual abuse. Spiritual abuse is mentioned on the Baptists’ website, but it is not defined.
The ground-breaking academic textbook on the subject is Breaking the Silence of Spiritual Abuse by Lisa Oakley and Kathryn Kinmond
Available to buy here.
The latest book by Lisa Oakley and Justin Humphreys is Escaping the Maze of Spiritual Abuse: Creating Healthy Christian Cultures.
Available to buy here.
Recently the organisation thirtyone:eight (formerly CCPAS) published their research paper entitled ‘Spiritual Abuse’, which can be downloaded here.
It defined spiritual abuse as:
‘Spiritual abuse is a form of emotional and psychological abuse. It is characterised by a systematic pattern of coercive and controlling behaviour in a religious context. Spiritual abuse can have a deeply damaging impact on those who experience it. However, holding a theological position is not in itself inherently spiritually abusive, but misuse of scripture, applied theology and doctrine is often a component of spiritually abusive behaviour.’
The presenting factors in spiritual abuse are fear (of not being good enough, being wrong, being excluded, afraid to speak out) and shame (who you are, what you have done). This can lead to self hate and for some to internalised homophobia.
There needs to be greater accountability in the church to whistle blow and to report abuse. There also needs to be greater training on how to respond to reports of abuse, For example, it is not a good idea to just go to the parent / church or have a chat over a cup of tea with someone accused of abuse, it must be reported to the safeguarding officer.
Effective safeguarding needs:
We also have to be aware of the current culture about a ‘clash of rights’, if we are to reduce and eliminate abuse. God’s love is not harmful.